Too much Love.

Sometimes when we give so much love, we expect the same in return. Certain respect at least, perhaps a bit more consideration, maybe even some exception.

And of course we would certainly feel dejected, if instead, we are turned the other cheek. Worse still if we have been wronged by the exact same people whom you thought would have known you better! That would certainly hurt!

So how do we protect ourself?

Well, first of all, not everyone has the same rules. Not everyone applies the "give and take" principle. Hence, when you want to give, expect no return. (More so in dollar and cents. If you want to lend money to friends or relatives only give an amount that you can afford to lose. And expect that you may not see the money or the friend again. So if it does happen that way you are prepared for the worst and can forgive and forget easily. But of course they have something to lose: your trust!)

Rule no 2: go back to rule no 1.

Ha ha! Actually, I can't think of anything else except for the above. There are many other things that we can do but nothing major. The crux of the matters lies in the above. If we can master that, life will be a lot more pleasant and will not be filled with hate.

The following saying is also totally true:
"being happy doesn't mean that everything is perfect, but you have decided to look beyond the imperfection"

Yes, you get to choose to be happy. Or miserable.

And lastly my final word of advice, stay within your area of influence otherwise it's difficult to be not miserable.

Have a good week ahead peeps....

P.S. Don't forget to say a prayer for the innocence in Gaza.

Respect

One of my cousins posted the poster below in her FB. The message from there caught my eyes and set me thinking.

It's pretty common for us to judge a person from what we see. After all, there is no way for us to know the full history or background of everyone whom we meet. Hence it's not unusual for us to sometime make the wrong conclusion base on our assumption from what we see. That is the problem.

Question is, how do we change that?

Well for one, I say, we have to acknowledge the fact that everyone has a different way of thinking base on the way they are brought up as well as educated. A person who has not gone through the same experience is not expected to feel or think the same way. In fact, even if they have gone through the same experience, their thinking may still not be the same.

Actually, come to think of it, all we need to do is to have a sincere respect for the other person's opinion and not be adamant with our own set of rules and thinking. We should not be judgemental base only on the way we see things. Base on only our perspective. We need to open up a bit more. We need to listen with an open heart and mind. And we shouldn't put a label on anyone before we know the person better.

But of course there will always be some people who are like that I am afraid. Total control freak. If you ask me, I really don't know whats their problem. Sigh....

So, in conclusion, since we may not have the time and pleasure of psyco-analysing everyone we meet, suffice to say that all we need to do is respect each other.

And the whole world will be a better place.

And everyone will live happily ever after.

Sigh....

Salam and good nite.

P.S. Don't forget to say a prayer/doa to the Muslims in Gaza. May Allah protect the innocents from the oppressors. Ameen.

Friendship Week

Alhamdulillah. After so many months of busy schedule in and out of the office, I am at last a little free and easy. We have done our part and now we will leave matters in the hand of the Creator. He knows what is best for us all. InsyaAllah.

Well, this week has been a great friendship week for me. With the public holidays and all, there were plenty of opportunities to reconnect with old friends. And that's exactly what I did. Breakfast here, lunch there, tea all the way in the heart of the city. I treasure every moment.  Unfortunately I forgot all about taking photos of us. Another thing amiss of me  apart from forgetting my handphone.

Anyhow, to all my friends out there, thank you for being so supportive during my time of needs and bearing with my untimely schedule at times.

May Allah bless us all and grant us the path towards jannah. Ameen.

Forgive and Forget

Posters of Happiness

Whenever I am not able to write, I shall post posters which I feel may be a great reminder or encouraging words for us all.

These are words or quotes that touched me which I have pasted on my favourite photos.

I used to googled for the right message with a nice creative but at times the message is good but the background is not. Well, no more of that.

Hope you find them meaningful as I have.

And feel free to save the image and send to your loved ones. The first one was under the title 'Every little Thing'.

Thank you for sharing and spreading the words.

Mankind

Yeah ok. It's been sometime. You are not the only one who noticed. Some even complained. Sigh.

I have been busy off late. So much in my mind too that I keep forgetting things. Like forgetting to bring my handphone when I go out. My daughter couldn't understand how I can forget one of the most important if not THE most important device in the whole wide world. Well, that goes to show....

But this doesn't mean that I have stopped wondering and musing. Still do that a lot. Just that they are hard to put down on paper. You know, one those....

Anyways, I found the quote below and pasted it on one of my favourite photo of an oil painting that I cannot afford.

I found the quote so good an advice. Like, a person can pretend to be a goodie two shoes and perform their prayers and such but we do not really know whats in their heart. But how they treat and behave with another human kind cannot be hidden. And to go a bit further to animals too. Certainly something wrong with a person who torture a cat for example or takes pleasure in pulling the wings of a butterfly. Demented!

So my friends, thats why I told my two girls how to choose their partner. Of course the first priority is still the 5 times daily prayer. But secondly they must have a good relationship with their parents and siblings. I mean if they can't even do that in their own home how can they behave kindly outside their comfort zone? Well of course there are circumstances like a broken family and all that which may have an effect on a person perpective in life. Still no reasons to pull the wings of that pretty butterfly!

Well, I must say that there are more and more sickos out there but we have to have faith in the general mankind. We have to believe that deep inside they are good.

And it all begins with us. If we want to change the world, begins with ourselves.

May the new year brings us a more meaningful life for us and the people around us in the eye of Allah. InsyaAllah. Ameen.

Salam maal hijrah.

Every little thing.