Love and Trust

I am sure that many of us has gone through the pain and regret of being betrayed. If not, the feeling of being betrayed. It hurts, right?

But what really hit me was the time to get over it. Even after you say that all is forgiven. It will never be forgotten. The phrase 'Forgive and Forget' is certainly not applicable. Its easier to forgive but harder to forget. Well, maybe over time it will. One day. But that one day is a long time. That niggling feeling of regret remains almost forever albeit with less pain.

And worse of all, the trust for the person who caused the ruckus became minus sub zero. It will take awhile to restore the relationship. Faster if the person means a lot to you but otherwise its as good as deleting his/her name from your contacts and FB. State of non existence.

Sounds harsh? Maybe so. But to me if a person can be so mean to you it only goes to show that he or she doesn't deserve to be called a friend. So why bother?

But of course once you are older and wiser, it is easier to look at matters in a different perpective. You can just forgive, forget about the whole thing and move on. With or without the so call friend.

It is still a wake up call though, who you choose to be your friend.