The Power of Words

You know, I can't believe how insensitive some people can be. Don't they think before they speak and realise that some words can hurt?. Or they just don't care?

There were some instances in the past where I witnessed such occasions. Some of the common ones are:
'awat hang besaq sangat?' ( why are you So big?, in a northen slang), said a friend to another who has not seen each other for long. To me no matter how comfortable a person is with his/her big size, its still impolite to make an open remark like that in front of everyone else in such a loud voice. It will probably another long while before he/she will see this person.

'when are you getting married?' Or 'when are you having a baby?'. I honestly feel that all girls want to get married or have a baby someday. God willing. Perhaps they have problem finding a partner or has a broken relationship or have problem conceiving. It wont help to remind them of their failure to get married or have a baby.

Another thing is sometimes we forget that children even at young age are sensitive to what the adult have to say. We may not realise that they understood the implication of the remarks made and this may cause them to develop an inferiority complex and even sibling rivalry. This can happen when there are two or more children in a family and one of them happen to be darker than the other or does not look as cute as the others. And adult make remarks like "Eh, why is this one darker than the rest?" or "eh, yang ini comel lah (this one is so cute)" while paying a lot of attention to the cute one and ignoring the others.

Anyone watched the Disney cartoon movie "Bambi"? There was one scene where a rabbit named Thumper was reminded by his mother "if you dont have anything nice to say, dont say anything at all!"

I totally agree.