So I lost two of the most important men in my life just about a year apart. My husband in July last year and my father last week. It was tough the first time but I must say that I was more prepared the second time around.
But it both cases, the death left behind vulnerable people to be looked after. Earlier it was my two girls and now my mother.
After 14 months my girls have taken on life challenges pretty well I must say. Being young and with so much to go for in life, there are plenty to keep them occupied physically and mentally. There is not much time to grieve for too long. Maybe occasionally, I must admit, especially during certain events that we have to go through, but overall they are okay. The 3 of us are okay. Alhamdulillah.
My mother on the other hand is more fragile. Physically as well. Well, what can one expect. She is 91 going on 92 years old. (My father was 97 when he died. He would have been 98 in December 14). She is as well as she could be for a person at that age actually. Nothing major to complain about, if you ask her.
And she has been married to my Dad for more than 70 years. I hate to think that she is going through what I have gone through last year. For a person who have been together for that long, I am sure there is a much bigger hole left in her heart. But then again she is a person who holds firmly on "Qada" and "Qadar". So I am hoping that her grieving will not be too deep nor too long. InsyaAllah.
May Allah ease her pain and keep her strong physically and emotionally.
Aameen.
