Thursday, 31 May 2012
Tuesday, 29 May 2012
Do unto others
Just want to share with this hadith which was emailed to me recently.
Two things that strike me when I read this especially on item 2 in the attachment:
1) everyone knows that we are to be kind and not be hurtful to others but more often than not this is the root cause of many problems be it in the home or office. The world will be a more peaceful place to live in if only everyone practises this. Sigh....
2) Base on my own personal experience it matters a lot who you hang out with. Usually our behavior will be in sync with the group as we are very much influenced by the majority. (note to parents: please know who you children friends are)
It's something to ponder though it may be not new to some.
Cheers.
Two things that strike me when I read this especially on item 2 in the attachment:
1) everyone knows that we are to be kind and not be hurtful to others but more often than not this is the root cause of many problems be it in the home or office. The world will be a more peaceful place to live in if only everyone practises this. Sigh....
2) Base on my own personal experience it matters a lot who you hang out with. Usually our behavior will be in sync with the group as we are very much influenced by the majority. (note to parents: please know who you children friends are)
It's something to ponder though it may be not new to some.
Cheers.
Saturday, 26 May 2012
Work Life
I was having lunch yesterday with a friend and was asked. What makes me happy working in one single company? Wow. That's a fully loaded question on a friday afternoon.
The reason she asked was because she is starting to feel kind of 'lethargic' where she is even though she has just been given a new portfolio. She is wondering if its the job, the people or the company.
After an hour of discussion with a couple of other topics in between and chomping down my sandwich at the same time, we agree that she should wait it out until at least the end of the year to take stock of the situation again.
I have always believe that we must love the job that we do and the people that we work with. If one of the two is not in place then we will have a stressfull time in the office. Eventually it will affect the quality of our work and our life. Even our health can be affected too as a result of prolong stress.
If that ever happens we need to make a change. It doesn't have to be a major change. Maybe just a change of port folio or department. A change every 3 years is highly recommended as this would expand our knowledge and experience. Meeting new people along the way is an added bonus.
This has always been my advice to my nieces and nephews as well as the new recruits in the office.
A happy working life would certainly contribute to a happier life. Of course that's only one half of it. There is also the "after office" life that needs to be managed too. But that's another story.
So my friend, just go with the flow and take time to smell the roses. There may be a light at the end of the tunnel just yet! Meantime, let's have more lunches!
The reason she asked was because she is starting to feel kind of 'lethargic' where she is even though she has just been given a new portfolio. She is wondering if its the job, the people or the company.
After an hour of discussion with a couple of other topics in between and chomping down my sandwich at the same time, we agree that she should wait it out until at least the end of the year to take stock of the situation again.
I have always believe that we must love the job that we do and the people that we work with. If one of the two is not in place then we will have a stressfull time in the office. Eventually it will affect the quality of our work and our life. Even our health can be affected too as a result of prolong stress.
If that ever happens we need to make a change. It doesn't have to be a major change. Maybe just a change of port folio or department. A change every 3 years is highly recommended as this would expand our knowledge and experience. Meeting new people along the way is an added bonus.
This has always been my advice to my nieces and nephews as well as the new recruits in the office.
A happy working life would certainly contribute to a happier life. Of course that's only one half of it. There is also the "after office" life that needs to be managed too. But that's another story.
So my friend, just go with the flow and take time to smell the roses. There may be a light at the end of the tunnel just yet! Meantime, let's have more lunches!
Be strong my dear.
I have this feeling that a good friend of mine has a problem at home. When it comes to matters of the heart, it's rather difficult for others to help and solve the problem. You know why?
No two persons are the same. And relationship between two person is made up of so many variables. What works with one couple may not work with another.
The only thing that we can do is to share what works in the hope that maybe one of the examples can be adapted and adopted.
But at the end of the day, it's about whether you honestly want to make it work. Do you want to give it another shot. Do you still love each enough to make that little sacrifices. Are you willing to admit mistakes made and forgive the other person's mistake. Are you willing to change. Etc. Etc.
Yup. It sounds like there is a lot of work to be done.
My dear, it may be like it's the end of the world and there doesn't seems to be a light at the end of the tunnel. But I am sure it will be over soon. Just hang in there, persevere. Seek guidance from the Almighty. Pray for patience and forgiveness.
I know that you will be able to get over this dark patch and will be hopping back up in no time. Don't give up yet okay?
No matter what, I am here for you whenever whatever. I am sure that there is blessing in disguise in all that has happened.
So, stay strong. Believe.
No two persons are the same. And relationship between two person is made up of so many variables. What works with one couple may not work with another.
The only thing that we can do is to share what works in the hope that maybe one of the examples can be adapted and adopted.
But at the end of the day, it's about whether you honestly want to make it work. Do you want to give it another shot. Do you still love each enough to make that little sacrifices. Are you willing to admit mistakes made and forgive the other person's mistake. Are you willing to change. Etc. Etc.
Yup. It sounds like there is a lot of work to be done.
My dear, it may be like it's the end of the world and there doesn't seems to be a light at the end of the tunnel. But I am sure it will be over soon. Just hang in there, persevere. Seek guidance from the Almighty. Pray for patience and forgiveness.
I know that you will be able to get over this dark patch and will be hopping back up in no time. Don't give up yet okay?
No matter what, I am here for you whenever whatever. I am sure that there is blessing in disguise in all that has happened.
So, stay strong. Believe.
Tuesday, 22 May 2012
Note to Self
Every now and then we need to remind ourself that we can plan every little thing even to the tiniest little detail but the final outcome is still up to God. So we just need to do our our best and then leave the rest in the hand of Allah.
This is the exact same advice that I gave to my two girls whenever they are facing challenges especially an important exam. Usually nearer to the big date, they get so nervous and start to be jittery.
I guess being young its not so easy to immediately accept the fact that whatever the result or outcome, though it may not be what we want, it is actually what is good for us.
Every parents want their children to do the top of the class and its not wrong for us to give them a gentle push to work a little bit harder if they want their desired result. Nevertheless we must always remind them that there so much that we can do and whatever the result will be it will be good. This will ease off a little pressure on their fragile shoulder.
And that is also a good reminder to us adult too.
Salam and good nite.
This is the exact same advice that I gave to my two girls whenever they are facing challenges especially an important exam. Usually nearer to the big date, they get so nervous and start to be jittery.
I guess being young its not so easy to immediately accept the fact that whatever the result or outcome, though it may not be what we want, it is actually what is good for us.
Every parents want their children to do the top of the class and its not wrong for us to give them a gentle push to work a little bit harder if they want their desired result. Nevertheless we must always remind them that there so much that we can do and whatever the result will be it will be good. This will ease off a little pressure on their fragile shoulder.
And that is also a good reminder to us adult too.
Salam and good nite.
Sunday, 20 May 2012
Allah knows Best
A good friend of ours underwent a major surgery yesterday. Alhamdulillah, the surgery went well. But then the surgery is one thing, the road to recovery is another. It will be a long and painful recovery especially in the beginning. She is expected to be away from the office for almost two months.
This is one of those moments when I do not know what to say or do to help. It's one of those occasion in life that makes me feel helpless. I wish that there is words that would ease her pain or any thing I could do to help to speed up her recovery. Pumping her with more morphine may help but I am sure the doctor has all that covered. We certainly do not want her to be a junkie at the end of the day.
The only thing that I or we can do for now is give her our support and encouragement, show our love and care and pray hard for her speedy recovery.
Sue, we will visit you soon ok! Hope that you will be ready for visitors by tomorrow. Meantime do as what the doctor ordered and be nice to the nurses!
We all love you! Especially the ladies from Tuberose!
*hugs and kisses*
This is one of those moments when I do not know what to say or do to help. It's one of those occasion in life that makes me feel helpless. I wish that there is words that would ease her pain or any thing I could do to help to speed up her recovery. Pumping her with more morphine may help but I am sure the doctor has all that covered. We certainly do not want her to be a junkie at the end of the day.
The only thing that I or we can do for now is give her our support and encouragement, show our love and care and pray hard for her speedy recovery.
Sue, we will visit you soon ok! Hope that you will be ready for visitors by tomorrow. Meantime do as what the doctor ordered and be nice to the nurses!
We all love you! Especially the ladies from Tuberose!
*hugs and kisses*
Saturday, 19 May 2012
Touch
Do you watch the series entitled 'Touch'? Its about a little boy with autism named Jake who has never spoken a word and cannot bear to be touched. His father (played by Kiefer Sunderland) tries to communicate with him via numbers or patterns.
I find the story fascinating and some of the statements made in the epilogue and prologue of each episode very intriguing. And it's made even more so when the statement is 'voiced' by Jake base on his astute observation.
In each episode, Jake would send his father into an adventure and solve the problem base on the clue that Jake gave him. And most of the time the story will be connected to one or two 'stories' in other part of the world. It's interesting how this one work out. Can you just imagine something that you do right this minute may trigger some event on the other side of the world? If you think of the world as a single stage then it is certainly possible!
There was one episode where he said at the end about the power of prayer and the voice of many. I think everyone can relate to that.
Anyway, it's on Fox channel every Sunday at 9 pm. In case anyone want to watch.
Good night peeps!
I find the story fascinating and some of the statements made in the epilogue and prologue of each episode very intriguing. And it's made even more so when the statement is 'voiced' by Jake base on his astute observation.
In each episode, Jake would send his father into an adventure and solve the problem base on the clue that Jake gave him. And most of the time the story will be connected to one or two 'stories' in other part of the world. It's interesting how this one work out. Can you just imagine something that you do right this minute may trigger some event on the other side of the world? If you think of the world as a single stage then it is certainly possible!
There was one episode where he said at the end about the power of prayer and the voice of many. I think everyone can relate to that.
Anyway, it's on Fox channel every Sunday at 9 pm. In case anyone want to watch.
Good night peeps!
Wednesday, 16 May 2012
Au revoir my friend.
Two weeks ago I attended a farewell dinner to honour a colleague who has retired. And in function such as this, the guest of honour is expected to give a speech. Suddenly it struck me. In one or two years time I will be on the stage giving a similar speech! Oh my God! I don't think I can do that.
You see, I am such a cry baby. Have always been a cry baby since a baby. Hee.... My sibling used to tease me incessantly about it. And it would make me cry even more as a result of it. Hee....
I mean, for having worked in a single company for 30 years, anyone would feel so much for the company and the people in it that I am pretty sure it is hard to leave without feeling sad in some way. I am sure that I will be so sad that I will not be able to make a speech without being emotional and worse with tears running down my cheeks. Can I request to skip the farewell dinner please.....?
Anyway, to my friend G, here's wishing you the best of everything in life as a lady of leaisure. May Allah bestow you with good health and happiness in what ever you do, where ever you will be.
InsyaAllah.
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| Me and G |
Reunions
Yeah. It's been sometime since my last post. Been kind of occupied lately taking care of things and loved ones. Such that the mind becomes occupied too. And when it's occupied, it doesn't wonder or ponder as much.
But..... I did find the time to meet up with some of my old school friends last week end. My upper secondary school. Sek Men Sains Johor in Kluang. (During my time there was only one Science school in every state.)
I honestly feel that I am fortunate that I have the opportunity to study in a boarding school even for a mere two years. It was certainly a totally different life style compared to my lower secondary school life. I enjoyed both of them actually. They were totally different experience altogether. And I am glad that both my girls have gone through the same experience. Alhamdulillah. I certainly wouldn't want them to go to boarding school right from year 1.
Anyway, the committee members of the alumni never gets tired of organising a yearly reunion. (three cheers for the President of SAJOHA and the exco members. Hip hip hurrah!). Usually the event is attended by about 200 to 300 former Sajohans. The biggest one we had was about 3 years ago where we had a Charity dinner. There were about 500 guests and we collected donation to repair the surau in the school. It was a pretty successful event and everyone had a great time. And we get to do our bit for charity too. What more can one ask?
Well last week end event was no different. As usual we had a blast. We get to meet the regulars and some new members and even a few long lost friends. There was plenty of food, entertainment and goodies to take home. And there were a lot of reminiscence and laughter. I would not miss it for the world.
The next big event will be the hari raya gathering but of course there are small group get together in between every now and then. The odd lunch or breakfast or afternoon tea here and there.
Will be looking forward to that.
I can't help wondering though, why there are some who never bother to make contact anymore. The same goes with my college mates. Only like half of us are still in touch whereas the other half seems to have disappeared to the center of the earth. Ok, ok. I am exaggerating.
Oh well. Guess I better say goodnite before I start to ramble on and on...
Good nite my friends. I do love you even though I don't see you as much as I like to.
*hugs*
But..... I did find the time to meet up with some of my old school friends last week end. My upper secondary school. Sek Men Sains Johor in Kluang. (During my time there was only one Science school in every state.)
I honestly feel that I am fortunate that I have the opportunity to study in a boarding school even for a mere two years. It was certainly a totally different life style compared to my lower secondary school life. I enjoyed both of them actually. They were totally different experience altogether. And I am glad that both my girls have gone through the same experience. Alhamdulillah. I certainly wouldn't want them to go to boarding school right from year 1.
Anyway, the committee members of the alumni never gets tired of organising a yearly reunion. (three cheers for the President of SAJOHA and the exco members. Hip hip hurrah!). Usually the event is attended by about 200 to 300 former Sajohans. The biggest one we had was about 3 years ago where we had a Charity dinner. There were about 500 guests and we collected donation to repair the surau in the school. It was a pretty successful event and everyone had a great time. And we get to do our bit for charity too. What more can one ask?
Well last week end event was no different. As usual we had a blast. We get to meet the regulars and some new members and even a few long lost friends. There was plenty of food, entertainment and goodies to take home. And there were a lot of reminiscence and laughter. I would not miss it for the world.
The next big event will be the hari raya gathering but of course there are small group get together in between every now and then. The odd lunch or breakfast or afternoon tea here and there.
Will be looking forward to that.
I can't help wondering though, why there are some who never bother to make contact anymore. The same goes with my college mates. Only like half of us are still in touch whereas the other half seems to have disappeared to the center of the earth. Ok, ok. I am exaggerating.
Oh well. Guess I better say goodnite before I start to ramble on and on...
Good nite my friends. I do love you even though I don't see you as much as I like to.
*hugs*
Thursday, 10 May 2012
Counting Your Lucky Stars
It's actually funny in a way. I met up a few old friends and what was our topic of discussion? Our pain points. Literally. We were actually comparing our body aches and pains; who has knee problem, who has back problem, what suppliments we take, etc.
Hee.... Maybe its a common topic among us at this age.
But I was also reminded of something even more important by one of them which compell me to share.
Whenever a calamity occurs in our life, normally we would be so upset and depressed that sometimes we forgot about all the good fortune that we have been bestowed upon us.
She continued to say that instead of dwelling too much on the problem to the point of getting out of our mind, we should be counting on our blessings so that we can be in a better frame of mind to address the problem at hand.
I can certainly relate to that. Isn't this is a good advice and reminder to us all? It will certainly help us to take on our little life challenges with a much better frame of mind and it would certainly help to manage our stress better.
One thing for sure when you think that you've got it bad, there are others who are worse off.
Just so you know, I must say that I am lucky to have all of you as my friends for I know that I can turn on you whenever whatever. And the feeling is mutual.
Thank you my friends.
Hee.... Maybe its a common topic among us at this age.
But I was also reminded of something even more important by one of them which compell me to share.
Whenever a calamity occurs in our life, normally we would be so upset and depressed that sometimes we forgot about all the good fortune that we have been bestowed upon us.
She continued to say that instead of dwelling too much on the problem to the point of getting out of our mind, we should be counting on our blessings so that we can be in a better frame of mind to address the problem at hand.
I can certainly relate to that. Isn't this is a good advice and reminder to us all? It will certainly help us to take on our little life challenges with a much better frame of mind and it would certainly help to manage our stress better.
One thing for sure when you think that you've got it bad, there are others who are worse off.
Just so you know, I must say that I am lucky to have all of you as my friends for I know that I can turn on you whenever whatever. And the feeling is mutual.
Thank you my friends.
Wednesday, 9 May 2012
I Believe in Me
A friend tweet this quote:
If you aren't happy single, you won't be happy taken. Happiness is from within you, not from men (women)
-from Love Quote and Saying
I can't help but nod to myself when I read this. I mean, if you are not happy inside or within yourself, no matter who you are with or where you are, you will never ever be totally happy.
Somehow I got a feeling that there are many out there who are on denial. I believe that there are many who probably only pretend to be happy for the sake of others. They may appear to be happy on the outside but they may be suffering on the inside. Until the bubble of denial can no longer stretch and snap.
In the West people go to the 'shrinks' to solve their problems but in our society we suffer in silence. Although there are some loud ones who constantly fight and a few extreme one who resorted to committing suicide. God forbids.
If you have read my earlier post, happiness may be elusive unless you look for it in the 'right direction'.
All in all if you go back to basic, you will be alright. Believe me, the easiest way to get to know yourself is to 'get to know' Allah.
He will lead and show you the way. Trust me! Or rather trust Him. Everything else will fall into place.
And once you believe in yourself, life will be beautiful regardless who you are with or where ever you are.
Cheers!
P.S. Thanks Nora!
If you aren't happy single, you won't be happy taken. Happiness is from within you, not from men (women)
-from Love Quote and Saying
I can't help but nod to myself when I read this. I mean, if you are not happy inside or within yourself, no matter who you are with or where you are, you will never ever be totally happy.
Somehow I got a feeling that there are many out there who are on denial. I believe that there are many who probably only pretend to be happy for the sake of others. They may appear to be happy on the outside but they may be suffering on the inside. Until the bubble of denial can no longer stretch and snap.
In the West people go to the 'shrinks' to solve their problems but in our society we suffer in silence. Although there are some loud ones who constantly fight and a few extreme one who resorted to committing suicide. God forbids.
If you have read my earlier post, happiness may be elusive unless you look for it in the 'right direction'.
All in all if you go back to basic, you will be alright. Believe me, the easiest way to get to know yourself is to 'get to know' Allah.
He will lead and show you the way. Trust me! Or rather trust Him. Everything else will fall into place.
And once you believe in yourself, life will be beautiful regardless who you are with or where ever you are.
Cheers!
P.S. Thanks Nora!
Wednesday, 2 May 2012
Feeling the Love
As the clock strike 315 am early tomorrow morning it will mark the birth of a baby girl way back in 1958. And what have she achieved thus far?
From being a daughter and a sister to 8 siblings she is now also a wife to a wonderful man and a mother to two bubbly and loveable college age girls.
The play time on the field were long gone and the fun filled students days is now being filled with responsiblities in the corporate world.
So what's next from here?
When you really think about it, what is really important to achieve in this life?
By the grace of Allah, may there be more beautiful moments with the love ones, meaningful deeds that matters to many and quality time with God Almighty.
I feel so blessed.
From being a daughter and a sister to 8 siblings she is now also a wife to a wonderful man and a mother to two bubbly and loveable college age girls.
The play time on the field were long gone and the fun filled students days is now being filled with responsiblities in the corporate world.
So what's next from here?
When you really think about it, what is really important to achieve in this life?
By the grace of Allah, may there be more beautiful moments with the love ones, meaningful deeds that matters to many and quality time with God Almighty.
I feel so blessed.
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